By constantly putting myself out there, challenging myself at work, and trying out new activities I have learned a few things about failure and how to handle it with a more constructive and kind approach.
First of all, failure is feedback showing what didn’t work and how to tweak it for the next attempt.
Second of all, instead of looking at failure as something that ruins things for you, look at it as a time saver. Failure saves you hours, days, years. It saves you from spending precious time on things and ways that don’t work.
Thirdly, from my experience…
Putting labels on others based on quick glimpses is something that we all do, more or less, especially on social media. Because it allows us to quickly make sense of others.
However, when you put a label on people, it limits how you view them. It also limits your curiosity and interest, because you think you already know who they are.
Thankfully, applying labels is something that can be avoided — admit that you do it, be open to change your mind, take your time to read someone’s words and remember that humans are more than what meets the eye.
Everywhere we can read about transformational journeys. People share “how it started” and “how it ended” to show the trajectory of their personal growth journeys.
But why is it so little written about the “in-between” phase?
About the fact that most of people’s lives in trying to achieve their own personal growth and development were spent on a plateau, where things didn’t seem to be getting better.
First and final phases could be brief. But “in-between” phase may seem like forever. And this is exactly where we spend the overwhelming majority of our time!
So let’s not forget that the…
Everyone has traits that ruin things for them in life.
Some people believe that these traits are the inherent part of their personality. Which is fair enough.
The others are convinced that their character is under the influence of their star sign. That is completely understandable too because it makes talking about negative character traits less intimidating. It is much easier to talk about being a Scorpio than about being emotionally repressed, for instance.
But most of us accept them as a part of our person, a part that is almost impossible to get rid of.
But who said that…
Too many people don’t want to take full responsibility for their own lives and happiness and are subconsciously hoping for someone to come and make them happy.
This “come and rescue me” mindset though is such a wrong move.
Because not only it stops you from progressing, it actually just drags you back and then turns you into an enteral moaner and chronic complainer.
Therefore, stop expecting and waiting for something to happen.
Make it happen!
And remember it’s not a miracle, a superpower or gene only certain people have — it’s a mindset of an independent adult which really makes life easier.
Absolutely anyone can do it!
Spoiler alert: trying to be strong is a bit of a rocky road. But don’t let that stop you!
Are you a chronic complainer?
I have always been a “month in advance planner” since I was very young. I don’t know it is my star sign or personality or circumstance. But I loved scheduling tasks for exact times in life and at work and sticking to the plan. I felt angst without a plan. I hated change and needed to know what was happening and needed to make plans and be in control.
But I have changed. And I want to be clear about the process.
The first step, as always, is to be aware. You must be aware of different aspects of yourself…
We CAN change.
We CAN do better over time.
We CAN become stronger than we ever imagined.
But strength doesn’t come from what we can do. It comes from overcoming the things we once thought we couldn’t.
Several years ago I was stuck in a very dark place and I couldn’t find or see a way to get out of it. It took me so much strength to pull myself out mentally of that dark place. And I’m amazed at how much I’ve changed and how far I’ve come. But I didn’t go from where I was to where I…
Habits and routines are our friends — when they’re good ones. They help us keep projects and tasks on track with minimal mental effort. They help us relieve stress, free up time and energy. They help us repeat effective behaviors and build consistency in our lives.
But an effective behavior or habit can sometimes turn into a bad habit. And when it happens, it is important to understand that we do not have to remain stuck there. We can change!
The human brain is wonderfully plastic and changeable, throughout life. Look around! Some make dramatic mid-life career changes and master…
I know that some people fear adding structure to their lives because they worry it will restrict their freedom, hamper their ability to be spontaneous and creative. They usually say “routines are boring”, “habits limit your freedom, “we only live once”. And they give in to the short-lived indulgences and moments of laziness thus keeping on walking around in circles and not moving any closer to what they want to become.
But I am the opposite. As all of you know I’m a big-time reader, and the most impactful book I’ve ever read about habits was “Atomic Habits” and so…
Ok time for me to present an absolute game-changer in life!
And no. I’m not going to sell you anything that will pay my own expenses. That’s not the kind of page that this is. I promise you.
We have all said this phrase time and time again. And if you are like me, I’m so big on following on my word, then you know when you tell others you’re going to do something — you just have to keep that promise.
But why don’t we do the same thing for ourselves?
Keeping promises to ourselves is an…